Discipline people and get work done but without fluctuating your state of mind, which means work needs to be done but our happiness is not dependent on it.
Each one of us is responsible for our feelings. People are not responsible for how we feel and we are not responsible for how others feel.
We can take care of our thoughts and actions, but finally others will create their own feelings and we should not feel guilty if others are
Nothing and no one is in our control, other people's mind may not do what we want, we only have control on our own mind.